It feels as though a heavy weight of negativity, pessimism, and stagnation has been lifted, and the moment feels peaceful and the future seems bright.
This episode, which marks an end to the 30s and a bridge to the 40s (episode-wise), is all about deep reflection of past events, feelings, and self-worth; forgiveness towards oneself and others for all mistakes made and hard lessons learned; and moving forward with love, hope, and only the important teachings from the past with no unnecessary baggage in tow.
It is important to reflect on the past, in all its entirety, because there is gold in experience. The positive sides of a life lived – momentous joys, achievements, triumphs – all add context to who we are today and who we wish to become in the future. They give us confidence and hope that good times are just around the bend because they existed before. The negative sides – trauma, mistakes, pain, regret, unsavory consequences – are equally important because they too add context to who we are and provide us with knowledge, as only pain can, about our limitations as humans, what to avoid, and what to do better next time.
Reflection teaches. But without perspective, we may only understand one side of a lesson without the full scope of wisdom. No amount of mistakes, pain, success, or achievement makes one human inherently better or worse than another. You are not broken just as you are not perfect. We are also the only ones responsible for our lives moving forward despite past circumstances. A healthy level of awareness, introspection, humility, and grace can be useful for keeping us grounded and powerful. Reflection enables this.
Reflection is not enough. We must use those lessons to make better decisions at each subsequent moment we are alive. In order to do that, we must be free to move and to act. Forgiveness is crucial for healing the scars of time. Forgiveness is the practice of love towards ourselves for our wrongs and towards those who have wronged us. When we forgive, we cleanse ourselves of anger, resentment, bitterness, inadequacy, and pain because we make the CHOICE to love when we least wish to. We rise above, let go, open ourselves to love, learning, and higher virtue, and are no longer prisoners of our own making.
After that, the future is wide open and the moment is abundant. What we do now paves the road for what's next. Hopefully, you're as excited as I am .
Great new things coming soon to the podcast, stay tuned for updates.
Thank you so much for all of your love and support throughout this journey. I won't let you down.