Reframe Your Mind, Conquer Adversity – EU 16

December 7, 2017

“We forget: In life, it doesn’t matter what happens to you or where you came from. It matters what you do with what happens and what you’ve been given.” ― Ryan Holiday

Jarrod Greth was diagnosed with osteosarcoma, a rare form of bone cancer, at age three.  Now cancer-free and working towards a law degree, Jarrod weighs in on life as a cancer survivor, amputee, and how he’s been able to reframe adversity to strive for the best version of himself.

Key Points:

Adversity is a mindset.  This does not mean life doesn’t deal you bad hands.  It does.  But you choose how to play the hands you’re dealt.  Adversity is not an excuse to not achieve or not to try.

Adversity forms who we are.  Instead of lamenting all the things we aren’t or what we can’t do, we should instead ask ourselves “What can I do? What am I capable of?”

Adversity in and of itself does not hold us back.  Our expectations, effort, and egos do.

There are many avenues to succeed.  Learn who you are, what you’re capable of, and what you value to capitalize on unique strengths.

There are two primary ways of dealing with adversity: overcome it or find a new path.

People choose to let adversity stop them from self-actualizing for many reasons including the western obsession with success, viewing life linearly, our culture of victim-hood and the race to see who is the most disparaged/underprivileged, and pursuing happiness as an end-goal.

Values conquer adversity.  Hard work, duty, responsibility, honesty, gratitude, integrity, etc.

Failure is “missing the mark.”  Many people fail because they’ve set unrealistic or unattainable goals.  Others fail because their goals are too easy.  Choose smart goals and know when to quit.

Become a realist.  Learn who you are, what success looks like to you, and how your expectations of yourself and others impacts your reality.  What makes you happy?  Discover the values that guide your thoughts and behavior.

Don’t be afraid to think for yourself and forge your own path, but listen to the feedback of others to fill any blind spots you may have.

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Special thanks to Jarrod Greth for being this week’s guest!

Intro/Outro beat produced by Shade Lockwood @shadelockwood on Instagram and Soundcloud.

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Feeling Insecure? A Cure For The Plague Of Insecurity – EU15

November 29, 2017

“It is always the secure who are humble.” – Gilbert Keith Chesterton

You wake up, brush your teeth, and gaze into the mirror hoping to see the reflecting visage of a Brad Pitt or Emma Watson. Nope, just you again, frazzled hair and all. In that moment, it’s easy to fall into despair. 

“Why am I not a beautiful celebrity worth millions?” you might think.  Why aren’t my finances respectable? Why am I so socially awkward? Why did THAT incident have to happen to me? Regardless of the question, there’s a good chance you, like most others, suffer the lifelong condition of feeling insecure. Left untreated, it can morph into a debilitating plague, infecting all areas of life.

This week’s episode inspects insecurity with the hope of suppressing it to a reasonable degree.  Bryan and Michael discuss common symptoms of insecurity, where it stems from, human narcissism and philosophy, personal anecdotes, the necessity of intrinsic value and external results, solutions such as the “fuck other people” mindset, service to others, therapy, self-awesomeness and more. 

There’s a saying that goes “the more personal the problem, the more universal it is.” You’re not alone if you battle with insecurity. If anything, it means you’re a fully functional human 😊.

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Turkey Day & Travel Escapades – EU14

November 23, 2017

Happy Thanksgiving! This week, we’re joined by the lovely and talented Ms. Alex to talk turkey day and travel escapades.  We practice gratitude by reflecting on the things we’re thankful for and share stories acquired from traveling the world. 

This episode follows the arc of adventure.  We discuss first impressions stepping off the plane, the “honeymoon phase” of being in a new place, total immersion, the return home, lessons and benefits of travel, and practical ways to make travel a part of your life.  We cover how to stay safe in a new environment, the two-way process of culture exchange, history, resourcefulness, and making it happen. 

Travel is personally empowering and perspective enhancing.  It doesn’t matter if it’s the town 10 miles away or a continent only accessible by 13-hour flight.  Exploring new lands and new people teaches you about the world, destroys bias and preconception, and develops one’s understanding of their home, culture, and place in the world.  We hope you enjoy!!

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Unraveling The Elements Of Exceptional Relationships – EU13

November 15, 2017

Relationships are awesome, they allow you to share the essence of your soul with another individual willing and capable of receiving it.  Once this bond is solidified by an unbreakable love, you are both carried away to nirvana to spend the rest of your days totally getting each other and living happily ever after.  Except not, relationships are tough!

In this content-rich episode, Bryan and Michael examine the components that constitute successful relationships.  We talk interdependence, polarity, trust building, boundaries, self-worth, red flags, The 5 Love Languages, sacrifice and more as we attempt to pick apart what separates healthy, long-term relationships from toxic, self-destructive ones.  This episode provides ample perspective to help you assess and maximize the relationships in your life, whether you’re dating, in a committed relationship, or happily single.

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A Millennial’s Guide To Surviving The Quarter-Life Crisis – EU12

November 8, 2017

“Just because we’re on different paths doesn’t mean I’m lost.”

As the fall season continues to descend upon us, Bryan and Michael share their plans to partake in “Sober November” and get personal on the topic of quarter-life crisis.  The quarter-life crisis is typically characterized by the solidification of identity and one’s standing in the world as they transition from young-adulthood to the next phase of life.  We share personal struggles with this phenomenon, examine some of the reasons why this happens particularly for the Millennial generation, and discuss a plethora of ways to cope with this period of existential uneasiness and confusion.  Whether you’re in the midst of your quarter-life crisis or have already passed this uncomfortable phase, this episode should provide plenty of vulnerability and insight with which to sink your auditory teeth.

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Emotional Stupidity & How To Avoid It – EU11

November 2, 2017

Have you ever found yourself weeping uncontrollably into a vat of Ben & Jerry’s for no apparent reason?  Have people told you your level of agreeableness is less than that of a rabid baboon? Do you struggle to connect with others to form healthy, win-win relationships?  If so, you may be suffering from a hard case of emotional stupidity, AKA a lack of emotional intelligence.

In this episode, we’re greeted by special guest and father Cody Blowers to discuss the critical topic of emotional intelligence.  As a current doctorate student with over 20 years of experience working and teaching in the medical field, Cody shares his insights on emotional intelligence and how we can develop it within ourselves to lead more successful and self-aware lives.  From empathy to emotional outlets to communication and motivation, no stones go left unturned in this special guest episode of the Elevated U podcast!

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Why So Serious? – EU10

October 24, 2017

In this double-digit installment of the Elevated U Podcast, Bryan and Michael steal a quote from their favorite Batman movie and riff on the topic of seriousness.  We ponder the causes and effects of seriousness, how it impacts those around us, and how fun can serve as an important counter-weight for a balanced life.

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Our Elevated U Journey & The Case For Stagnation – EU9

October 17, 2017

The best and most memorable adventures are the ones that happen.  In this week’s installment, we discuss our roots, how Elevated U came to be, and what we’ve learned in the process.  We show some love to all of our listeners, you guys rock!  Then Bryan and Michael argue the case for stagnation; why personal growth can actually be harmful.  We share personal stories, examine the symptoms of misdirected growth, and offer a few suggestions for how to make your life meaningful no matter how growth-oriented you are.  This episode is great for those that are interested in counter-arguments, abstract ideas, and grown men talking into a box.

Have an elevated week!

#ElevatedU

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10 Psychological Traps That Stifle Awesomeness – EU8

October 11, 2017

In this week's episode, Bryan and Michael riff and rant on 10 psychological traps that hinder people from achieving optimal states of awesomeness:

1) Discipline

2) Excuses

3) Not listening to others

4) Lack of exercise

5) Judging others

6) Perfectionism

7) Selfishness

8) PC culture

9) Entitlement

10) Lack of appreciation for the mundane

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The Pursuit Of Happiness – EU7

October 3, 2017

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” – Mahatma Gandhi

This week’s episode features special guest and close friend Robert as we plunge face-first into the topic of happiness.  We share personal views on the pursuit of happiness, challenge the notion of happiness as an end goal, and explore ways to attain sustained fulfillment throughout life.  This episode was a blast to record and we hope you enjoy the variety of perspectives and honest dialogue shared 😊.

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Just Do It! Productivity Pointers To Power-Up Your Life – EU6

September 26, 2017

It’s the first week of fall, and in this episode Michael and Bryan drop some wisdom on how to stay productive even after that 7th slice of pumpkin pie.  We share personal productivity strategies, common productivity pitfalls and what to do when you fall off the horse.  We talk about momentum, motivation, time management, sacrifice, short-term vs. long-term strategies, and how to stay sane all the while getting things done.  So before you settle into that Autumn-based food coma, give us a listen, make your bed (you’ll see why), and set yourself up for amazing success down the road!

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How To Be An Effective Leader – EU5

September 19, 2017

What does it take to be an effective leader?  How do effective leaders champion their cause?  In this week’s installment of the Elevated U Podcast, Bryan and Michael take a stab at the topic of leadership.  We dissect what leadership means to us, examine various leadership styles and methodologies, share our top 3 attributes for effective/ineffective leaders, and discuss how to incorporate leadership into your life to elevate yourself and those around you to succeed!

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How To Cultivate Strength To Pierce Through Adversity – EU4

September 12, 2017

We admire those people who are able to push through seemingly insurmountable obstacles to achieve great heights.  The Ghandis, MLKs, Steve Jobs of the world.  In this week's episode, Bryan and Michael delve into the concept of strength, how to find and build your personal strengths, how weakness factors into strength, and how to develop an overarching framework of strength to survive and thrive during the toughest times of your life.  We share personal anecdotes, historic examples (Bryan has one towards the end you won't want to miss), practical tips and a healthy dose of bro-love.

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Is The Road To Bliss Paved With Regret? – EU3

September 5, 2017

In this week's episode, Bryan and Michael get deep on the topic of regret, what initiates it, how it's affected their lives, and how regret can be used as a powerful tool for altering behavior, inviting growth, and inspiring integrous and value-based living!

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An Optimist, A Pessimist & A Realist Walk Into A Bar… – EU2

August 29, 2017

In today's episode, we break away from optimism's stereotypical golden throne atop the cultural paradigm and dive into how pessimism and realism can also be useful perceptive tools for living a good life.  We chat about what it's like to be a realist, how to tell which of the three you are, and how fluctuating between all of them can be useful when navigating this beautiful, tragic and ordinary existence.

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